I was surprised soup operas were so ubiquitous in the Arab world. In Jordan, the Turkish shows are on all day and although I don't understand anything, the pictures show me the same story as the soap operas in Latin America: melodramas of the high classes; everyone seem beautiful and rich, fighting over love, power, money, or all three.
Life here seems very similar to any part of the world. Although people seem more caring and kind than in the west in general, they are the same as anywhere in the world. What I mean is, the costumes they wear, the pieces of cloth some men wear on their heads, or the cloth covering up some woman's head or even their whole body and face, doesn't seem to represent anything else but a custom, a different culture. Just like some women in the west like to wear ridiculously high heels, mini skirts or tight jeans that seem utterly uncomfortable to me or the woman in India who wear their beautiful colorful sarees. They are nothing but costumes and here in Jordan, unlike some of the Arab world, I believe there is a lot more flexibility for women who prefer not to cover themselves up.
The loud speakers at the mosques remind devotees to pray five times a day. I don't understand the words, but I believe it is the Koran they recite and it sounds very calming, very beautiful. I have seen my host and her friends take their prayer mat and do their oblations facing Mecca at least once a day. It is a similar feeling of being in Hindu India with their daily poojas. It appears that people in general have a religious approach to life, like in India, of doing no harm to others. I feel very safe here, like I do in India, but of course I always take precautions no matter where I am.
Like in other places in the world, there are rich and poor. Maybe there is less equality in the distribution of wealth here than in some places– it is not Canada or the Scandinavian countries for example, but leaning more towards South America where there is more concentration of wealth, the minimum wage and wages in general are low. I have heard from a local that if you want to make a decent living you need to have your own business or a high powered job, usually international. So, labor is exploited it seems, probably due to a fairly high unemployment rate of approximately 13%, educational gap, and a life structure that encourages families to live together, lowering their cost of living. The ingrained hierarchical system starting with the royal family, a system of favoritism, general disregard for the needs of the poor and lack of social schemes plays some part in the large gap between rich and poor.
The country has nice paved roads and the areas beyond downtown, circles 2, 3, 4 and beyond are very modern with name brand stores, malls, cool cafes, restaurants, and traffic jams just like any big city in the world. Many drive Mercedes, BMWs, Volvos, Honda's, Fords, and all varieties of car brands we see in the west – most seem new. Gasoline cost US 0.70 per liter.
The bus system is not that great. I still have not been able to take an intercity bus. Every time I ask someone how to take a bus somewhere they point me to a taxi. I don't think this is only because I am a foreigner. I have heard the buses routes are confusing and it doesn't always take one to the final destination. I met a high middle class woman at the Turkish bath - Al-Pashan Hamman, and we chatted while we enjoyed the plush jacuzzi and waited for our massage. She said she has to pick up her maid at a certain point because the 45-minutes ride she takes from her house in the periphery of Amman does not take her all the way to where she works. Usually the poor who cannot afford taxis end up walking a lot to their final destination. However, the minibuses and inter city buses are fairly good, very inexpensive and convenient if they take you where you need to go, which is never a guarantee. I pay about US$ 1.20 for the 45-minutes ride from Amman to Al-Jawaresh for example.
Needless to say, I am not so happy about the car orientation as a mode of transportation and often being stuck in traffic in the city as a result. I feel there is a class system here similar to Brazil where the middle class and the rich are worlds apart from the poor and there is a certain class (“us and them”) mentality to go along with it.
Bread is the staple food here, the well known pita bread. I have heard that the wheat is mostly imported from the USA as the places where they used to be cultivated around here now have houses in them. I love when the bus driver stops on the way from Amman to Al-Jawaresh at a bakery, and half the bus, including the driver gets a bag full of bread. There is absolutely no meal without bread, but I must say I am not dazzled by the food. There is lots of hummus, felafel, shwarmas (usually meat or felafel wrapped in pita bread), tabbouleh, fuul (fava-bean paste), kebabs, mensaf (a Bedouin dish of lamb with yogurt.) At home we eat a lot of chicken with rice and of course, bread and the equivalent of the Indian raita, which is cucumbers and tomatoes in yogurt.
Middle Eastern food is ubiquitous in North America and the food here does not seem very different from the one I get at the University District in Seattle for example. There are a few dishes I did not know of like the fuul and mensaf for example, although I had eaten versions of it, but in general, I am not impressed by the food. In fact, my face recently broke out in pimples last week, maybe because I am not used to so much terrine, or the fried food, or maybe it was the clay facial at the Dead Sea as the pimples happened right afterwords. Sage tea is helping, as well as the “skin plus” in my toiletry. I am loving the fresh figs, dates, olives and the yogurt though. There are so many kinds of them!
The government is not entirely democratic, although there is a veneer of democracy. Usually people vote for the king's party and there is no real opposition to counter balance power. There has been some efforts to include more women in government and extend their rights but progress is still slow.
The prime minister Samir Rifai recently announced the amendment of the Personal Status Law (PSL) approved by the government as a “modern” law. According to the Chief Islamic Justice, Ahamad Hilayel, this law would help ensure the stability and solidarity of the Jordanian family. Feminist activist Reem Abu Hassan disagrees. According to her, although the new PSL contains many positive changes such as explicitly stipulating woman's inheritance rights and the divorce process, (it includes psychological violence in addition to physical in the “burden of proof/cause”) it falls short in many counts. For example, the law does not guarantee financial and property rights or compensation for women when they are divorced. The other area of disagreement is around the marriage age. Officially, the minimum age for both men and women is 18 but courts allow the marriage of girls as young as 15 when they deem appropriate. In addition, Abu Hassan mentioned that women were never involved in any stage of the preparation of the new law.
I am sure life is different in smaller rural areas where Bedouin lifestyle prevails. I have heard their hospitality is even warmer than in the big city. I am looking forward experiencing the beauty of Petra, Wadi Rum and Aqaba and hopefully encountering Bedouin hospitality and better food.
Stay tuned as I will be touring this area this week.